Tuesday, June 06, 2006

Blank Noise
I know the only visitor to this corner of cyberspace wud most probably be myself..but on the offchance that someone , unbelievably bored, happens to look at this blog and good gosh, even take the time to read it, there is a topic that is close to my heart that I would like to mention here. Blank Noise Project. Please visit http://blanknoiseproject.blogspot.com. That site was created to bring awareness about sexual harrasement on women in India and how rampant it is. If you are in India and the various blogs posted on the blank noise project blog-a-thon move you enough to want to participate or if can just spread the word...either way, it makes a difference.
Do look it up if you get some time.
oh..and if u r reeeallly interested, this one too :-)
Thanks!


You are not looking decent, I mean you are looking fat, you are not looking very nice, I think you should change."

“ It does not suit you, this dress does not suit you.”

“ Wear what you want! You just want to be leched at right?”

“ Gosh! Look at her, she’s so cheap, why does she bother wearing anything, she would rather be naked.”

“ Dressed like a slut man! Total slut!”

“ Lipstick? I think it’s too much. People will think you’re a slut!”

“ But I was wearing something completely normal and it had frills on the top.”

“ Tie your hair. You must look neat.”

“ Please wear a slip over the bra. Your school uniform is transparent. It does not look nice.”

“ The skirt is too short. You can wear shorts if you like, but not a skirt.”

“ How come you wear only salwar kameez these days?”

“ I was in school, I remember my green pt uniform and the stranger in the bus put his dirty hands in my clothes.”

“ I started dressing more androgynous. People didn’t know whether I was man or woman.”

“ I wear what I want, nothing happens to me, I don’t know why you make such an issue out of this, I mean , why do you want to travel by bus anyways?”

“ This girl is crazy! She is screaming!”

“ Don’t talk back! Don’t you dare answer back!”

“ It was just an accident.”

“ “ What law can stop a man from talking to a woman? Take me to the police station, let me see what anyone can do. I just asked you out for coffee”

“ I think you are beautiful. I have two eyes. I will stare at you.”

“ Why do you look at them in the eyes. Best is to look down and walk. Avoid it.”

“ I carry a safety pin.”

“ I put my huge knapsack in front of me and walk in peace.”

“ But it was only a crush. I was staring at you because it was a crush.”

“ Please don’t do this to me, I am a father of two children. I am sorry I wont do it again.”

“ I am allergic to women in pants. It is against our culture.”

“I have a dupatta?”

I ask for it because I have a body with breasts that I should feel ashamed of?

I ask for it because you think there are good girls and bad girls, decent girls and indecent girls?

I ask for it because you think I am attractive?

Eve teasing it is, a joke, a prank that designs, shapes, structures our daily lives:

Who we are, where we go, what we wear, how we sit, stand, talk, walk in our very own cities. When we demand the need to make our cities non threatening , I don’t expect anyone to think of me as their sister or mother, but to really look at women as citizens who have every right to be out on the streets, without any explanation. Sometimes we just love to walk, stand around, hang around, without looking ‘avaliable.’

- Courtesy Blank Noise Project
NOT HAPPY!
its been awhile since i blogged..its the same old story...nothin' much going on in my life that was worth talking about blah blah. But there is something bothering me today and I thought it would be nice to write it down...for most of the times, I believe I am a pretty simple person..in that, I mean that my thought process, my reaction towards things are very uncomplicated...my motto..keep it simple! I mean, for instance, if someone tells me that this is what they had thought and that is y they behaved in someway, I believe them. There is no two way abt it for me. Its like if someone gives me an explanation abt sumthing, I believe it and move on. That's it. No more regurgitating/rehashing of the same topic. But I have discovered that its not the same with others. Its not that I really blame anyone...everyone is different, right?..but still..it rankles. y is it that I am not treated with the same belief that I show them? Or even if they say they do believe, they dont move on...y??? i dont gettit...i just dont!